Tuesday, October 29, 2024

4 Mountains of Men Who Shaped My Life

 

Four mountains of men who shaped my life all died within a thirteen-month span. I suppose that goes with being fifty-something.

In recent years, my wife and I commented several times, “You realize that people our age are the ones in charge and running things?” The adults who were in charge and in their forties to sixties when I was a child and teenager are now in their last quarter of a century and graduating to heaven one by one.

Shannon Harris, a blogger, writes, “A special kind of pain is felt when your mentor’s time on earth is through.” We remember significant conversations, lessons, and nuggets of wisdom they shared. Memories from their lives, which resonated with value, begin to feel out of reach. And those who loomed larger than life – almost immortal to us – show their mortality.


The Worshiping Pastor

Pastor Jack Hayford passed peacefully in his sleep in early January of 2023. Christianity
Today magazine once dubbed him “The Pentecostal Gold Standard.”  A world-renown leader, he pastored The Church on the Way in Van Nuys, California, eventually became Chancellor of The Kings College and Seminary, and wrote over 400 worship songs, including the popular chorus, “Majesty.” His radio and book ministry took his practical Bible teaching, heart for authentic worship, and love for the kingdom of God into the homes of countless Christians.


I benefited greatly from his preaching-teaching, his authenticity and vulnerability, and his ministry of writing. For three decades I listened to him and read many of his books, like Manifest Presence, The Key to Everything, The Spirit-Formed Life, and Blessing Your Children. I vividly remember his message from Exodus 3 at the Atlanta 1995 Promise Keepers event, when he had every man get on his knees in the arena.

Pastor Jack’s emphasis on integrity – first learned when his mother asked him to answer her question “with Jesus in the room” - his presence as a bridge-builder in the Body of Christ, and his passion to experience Christ intimately made him a shepherd of shepherds across denominational lines. My wife and I traveled once to the Billy Graham Training Center at the Cove to spend a weekend under his teaching.


Pastor Jack and
Rhett at The Cove


The Discipler of Men

Last February, my long-time friend, mentor, and cousin, Morris “Moose” Keller went to be with the Jesus he loved. Though almost forty years apart in age, our friendship continued for more than thirty years.

Moose loved to fish for men, and life was his fishing pond. Whether on the job, at the grocery store, or in church. His signature line was, "Can I ask you a personal question? Do you know if you died today, you would you go to heaven?" And then, often using a "Steps to Peace with God" gospel track, he told them about King Jesus who died on the cross for their sins.

During my college days, he and I met every couple of months. I'd drive from Clinton to Greenville and meet him for lunch at Stax Omega.

We talked about life, the Lord, and our struggles - things that matter. That's what mentoring is. Spending time with someone, connecting over important things, listening, helping them grow and learn. Moose trusted God. His faith was consistent.

The last time I visited his house he lay in a Hospice bed. His body frail but his mind bright, he quoted Scripture after Scripture to me, telling me how he was learning to trust God, and sharing how he led one of the hospital nurses to faith in Jesus Christ a few weeks before. Moose asked me about my wife and three children - all by name. He talked about my father, who had been gone for fifteen years.

He got out his IPhone and said, "Ooooooh. I have to share with you what I read in my quiet time this morning. I read it in the Message and I've never seen it say it quite like this." He proceeded to read his morning reading to me. The last several years, I could expect a daily email sent to several dozen people outlining the notes from his daily Bible reading. 

He told me, "We've been through a lot, buddy." That time was probably the only one he ever ended our conversation without, "Call me if you need me."


The Consummate Bible Teacher

Then in April, Charles Stanley, pastor of First Baptist Atlanta, Georgia, died. I tuned into his ministry as a freshman in college, listening to the InTouch radio broadcast. Attending a liberal religious college, which jettisoned the authority of Scripture and basic evangelical theology, his preaching helped anchor me in eternal truths.



My first year of school, I picked up his book, How to Listen to God, which had a shaping influence on my nineteen-year-old life. The first of more than two dozen of his books I would eventually read, I experienced his practical teaching that drew deeply from the Bible but also was illustrated with personal experiences. In that book I would find what was one of his constant exhortations: develop a lifestyle of meditating on the Word of God, expecting Him to guide you.

I first learned to preach from listening to radio teachers like Stanley. His winsome, conversational style combined with practical exhortations and challenges to trust God marked his teaching.

I met Dr. Stanley only once quickly at a book signing in Atlanta. After waiting in line, I said, “Dr. Stanley, thank you for teaching me about intimacy with God.” He stopped, lowered his pen, and stared directly into my eyes. Then he emphatically said, “That is the most important thing!”


The Encouraging Eagle

And then on January 21 of this year, my friend and business mentor Dan Miller left this earth. Dan’s books and podcast helped open the door for me, and many others, to become entrepreneurs, explore nontraditional work, and challenge conventional thinking about work opportunities.

Dan wrote, “Putting yourself in the driver’s seat requires creating a clear sense of where you want to go. A clear plan of action will separate you from 97 percent of the people you meet.”

Creating the 48 Days Eagle Community, he mentored modern entrepreneurs, which he called eagle-preneurs, to create the life they want, building their work around their life.

He modeled for many businesspeople how important it is to balance your life with both faith in God and making deep deposits in your family relationships. As he often said, “Success is more than a job.”

When we lose mentors, sometimes we grieve the lessons we’ll never learn from them. And then we realize we can cling to their God, embrace the same unchanging truths they believed and practiced, and make the world a better place by shining our light and investing in others – one person at a time.



Three days after writing this post, another mountain of a man who influenced my life left this earth. Read my article about Henry Blackaby here.



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Monday, October 28, 2024

Voting for a Platform - Not a Person

 

Here are five words of advice for wise voting.

Vote

Unless you are physically unable, vote. The prophet Jeremiah told the exiles to “seek the peace of the city” where He carried them (Jer. 29:7 NKJV). If it prospers, you prosper.


Vote on principles, not promises

Politicians will make all kinds of promises they can’t necessarily keep. Discover biblical principles that reveal things that God cares about – and vote for a person and party that most aligns with those things.


Vote on policies, not personality

Immature voting votes simply on liking one candidate or not liking another. Wise voting looks at the “party platform” behind the candidate. The party platform is what the political party promises to do if they get elected. 70-80% of the time, candidates stick to their party platform.

See the RNC’s 2024 party platform here.

See the DNC’s 2024 party platform here.


Vote on issues, not identity

Leftism loves to use identity politics (voting on someone simply because of their gender, race, religion, etc.). It’s like me voting for someone simply because we pull for the same sports team. Barak Obama recently received a lot of criticism from black men because at a rally for Harris he said that all black men are obligated to vote for Harris simply because she is black. That statement in itself is racist. Don’t vote based on identity. Vote on policies.


Vote on facts, not feelings

Politicians love to play to people’s feelings. They often love using victimization, for example, to gain sympathy votes. Do your research – apart from sound bites, and memes.  Vote on facts.


View my sermon and notes, "Biblical Values, Politics, and Voting" here.


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Biblical Values, Politics, and Voting

 



Dr. Rhett Wilson, Sr. shares principles from Jeremiah 29:4-14 about how God's people engage an ungodly, immoral society. Rhett talks about the church as the "conscience of society." He shares 10 values believers should care about - and gives 5 challenges for voting.

Click here to access the handout, Biblical Principles for Voting.

Click here to access Biblical Principles for Political Engagement from the Family Research Council's Center for Biblical Worldview.


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Saturday, October 26, 2024

Why Honor My Pastors?

 

I wrote the following post years ago but always re-share it in October. It's one of my most-viewed blog articles ever . . .


Dick Lincoln once said, "Church at its best is as good as it gets, and church at its worst is as bad as it gets."  No one understands this reality more than pastors and their families.

Every October I consider writing a post about Pastor Appreciation Month.  However, being a pastor, it seems awkward.  John MacArthur said it well when teaching his church about honoring pastor-elders, "I feel a little bit awkward up here telling you that you need to honor elders of which I am one. Obviously I could be accused of a conflict of interests and I could also be accused of having a self-serving motive. So I want to put in an immediate disclaimer on any of those things. I'm trying to teach you the Word of God."


I will bite the bullet this year and write a post with the hope of eventually providing encouragement to some man of God out there serving his church.  It's a little like a fireman raising money for the firefighters' fund. Hopefully, persons from other congregations will read it and the article will spur them on toward love and good deeds toward their pastors.

Worthy of Double Honor

Through the years we have tried to teach our children to honor certain people.  We have explained that to honor someone means "to treat them special."  The Webster Dictionary defines honor as "high estimation, respect, consideration."

One of those persons I believe deserving honor are pastors of congregations.  Michael Miller shares great insights in his article The Importance of Honoring Your Minister.

Jesus said in John 13:20, "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who receives [or welcomes] whomever I send receives Me; and he who receives Me receives Him who sent Me.” 

Click here to read my entire article, "Why Honor My Pastor?"


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Thursday, October 24, 2024

Confronting Church Bullies, part 3

 

The carnage of bullies in the church is significant. Yesterday, I was in an intense discussion at a coffee shop in Canada with three other individuals regarding my blog, "When Church Boards don't Confront Bullies," a woman at the table nearby was listening. As she left, she came and introduced herself and told the story of how her large church in Calgary had been destroyed by a church bully and gave us a book recommendation on narcissists in the church. She was right on three counts. One bully behavior is classic narcissism. Two, it has the power to
destroy churches. And three, church leaders are notoriously bad at dealing with the problem. And when they ignore the issue, the damage is significant.

Bullies are chameleons. They try to look spiritual and concerned. But their behaviors are destructive, toxic, and hurtful. Don't be fooled!

Boards don't deal with church bullies because they are intimidated by them. That intimidation is a form of control by bullies, which provides them license to continue their bad behavior. As we will see in this series, and as we have experienced, the bully can be a pastor, a board member, or another individual in the congregation. Intimidation is their method of operation, and the response of many church leaders is passive acceptance of their behavior because they are cowed by that intimidation. Don't be!

Read the entire article, Confronting Bad Behaviors of church bullies, by T. J. Addington here.

And click to read part one and part two here.


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Wednesday, October 23, 2024

When Church Boards Don't Confront Church Bullies - Church Bullies part 2

 

Church bullies are toxic to the local church. They create divisions and unhealthy alliances, spread gossip and rumors, and undermine leaders regularly. They do this to accomplish their ends. They may be angry, have an agenda, or want to hurt leaders, whether boards or the
senior Pastor. But the end result of their toxic, unethical, and unbiblical behavior is to hurt God's people. If you are a church leader, please read that last sentence again because it matters. 

Here is the problem with church boards and church bullies. Boards are very reluctant to deal with them. They are intimidated by them and don't want to rock the boat. They find all kinds of ways to justify this toxic behavior. "Oh, that is just Joe; get used to it." Listen, Betty is a good person despite all the gossip and malicious lies she tells." "We have always had a problem with Bill." 

And who gets hurt? First, God's people. The leadership becomes complicit in the toxicity when they refuse to deal with it. Bullies use disinformation, unkind words, gossip, malicious charges, and underhanded techniques to get their way. And they refuse to be held accountable. They triangulate leaders and, in the process, create doubt, distrust, and undermine senior leaders. Often, the senior Pastor. 

Read the entire article, When Church Boards Don’t Confront Church Bullies, by T. J. Addington, here.

And click here to read part one here and part three.


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Tuesday, October 22, 2024

How to Spot a Bully in the Church: Church Bullies, part one

 

Newsflash: There are often people in a church who are bullies and get away with it because church leadership is too nice to call them out on their destructive behavior. Often, we know something is not right, but how do we know when behavior has crossed a line and is unacceptable? Here are some behavioral signs that you may be dealing with a bully.

They have to get their own way. If a group decision is not their liking and they insist that things are done their way, beware.

They intimidate to get their way. It can be intimidation in attitude, not letting go of an issue, constantly pushing, or threats of some sort.


Read the entire article, How to Spot a Bully in the Church, by T. J. Addington, here.

And click here to read part two and part three.


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Monday, October 21, 2024

How Should Pastors Handle a Divisive Person?

 

Divisive people have always been a thorn in the flesh of the church. At the drop of a hat, some pastors could name a divisive person they have encountered. They tend to be easily recognizable (except, perhaps, by those who are too innocent to see through divisive, manipulative, and controlling behavior). As Romans 16:17–18 warns, “watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive.”



Sadly, these divisive people are often pacified and permitted to remain in the fellowship, suck the life out of the church, manipulate the naive, and hinder progress. Christ, however, gives clear instructions for how divisive people are to be handled in his Church: “Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned” (Titus 3:10–11).

Christ gives clear instructions for how divisive people are to be handled in his Church.


Read the entire article by Johnathan Arnold here.


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Friday, October 18, 2024

FIRST-PERSON: Theological liberalism in the SBC?

 

Baptist Press, the news arm of the Southern Baptist Convention, published my article, "Theological Liberalism in the SBC," in 2021 their First-Person section.


I attended a liberal religious college.

Though a fourth-generation Southern Baptist and grandson of a Southern Baptist pastor, a scholarship and my best friend convinced me to go to a school associated with the Presbyterian Church in the United States of America [PC(USA)]. The previous summer, at a Jericho Missions Conference at Glorieta Conference Center, I sensed a calling to pursue vocational ministry, and I entered my collegiate studies with that intent.

It did not take long to realize that, theologically, I was not in Kansas anymore.

View the article here at Baptist Press.

Monday, October 7, 2024

Praying through Natural Disasters

 

I wrote this article in September of 2017 following the aftermath of Hurricane Harvey.


News spread last week of Hurricane Harvey leaving devastation across Houston.  Watching news reports and video clips on social media leaves me feeling dazed and small.

I know I should pray.  I’ve been a Christian for decades and a pastor for twenty years.  I could share an impromptu sermon without any preparation on the why’s and how to’s of praying for people.

But when faced with mammoth disasters, I feel almost too small to pray.  The devastation looms like a Goliath taunting my puny prayers.  I hear the giant screaming, “Look at all of this trouble!  What good do you think your prayers will do?  Do you really think God will use your prayers to change any of this?”

Last week as I tried to pray concerning Hurricane Harvey and the struggling souls in Texas, an idea came to me. 

Praying with Specificity


For years, I’ve encouraged people to not pray general prayers but specific ones.  Don’t just pray “around the world” prayers like the following:

God, bless the missionaries.
God, be with us (He has already promised to be with His people, right?).
Lord, lead, guide, and direct them (aren't those three synonyms?).



Instead, I’ve encouraged praying people to be specific in their prayers:

Lord, give Susan wisdom as she considers what job to take.
Father, provide for Dan as he needs a car.
God, comfort Lucy as she struggles with the loss of her grandmother.
Lord, help our missionary friends the Campbells feel sense presence and feel cared    for as they may struggle with isolation and loneliness overseas.

One prayer offered with specificity may do more good than a dozen generalized ones that use religious language but don’t center on anything concrete.

A Pair of Shoelaces

The Bible teaches and illustrates God’s specificity in dealing with His children. Christianity boasts of a deity who contains awesome power (transcendence) yet personal closeness to people (immanence).

One Old Testament passage states, “the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him (2 Chronicles 16:9).  The Creator and Sustainer of the universe is able to zero in on one individual person of His creation and make himself know to that one.


V. Raymond Edman
, President Emeritus of Wheaton University, illustrated this reality in his book Out of My Life: Lessons Learned from the Scriptures on the Presence of God with His Own.  He shares t
he story of evangelist Dr. Joe Evans in the early 1900’s. As a young man in Boston learning to trust God for his needs, he found himself without money and with a broken pair of shoelaces on his only pair of shoes.

Joe wondered, “Should one pray for a matter as small as shoelaces?  I think so, for the principle of faith is not concerned with quantity, but rather with quality.  The Lord Jesus taught that if we have faith as a grain of mustard seed, then great things can happen.”

The young man asked God for more laces and then “went about the Lord’s work with the shoes and laces as they were and with a heart that was content to make known his requests to the Most High, with confidence that there is an Ear that hears, an Eye that sees, a Heart that is touched with our necessity, and a Hand that can be stretched forth in our behalf.”

One week later a letter arrived from a friend in California.  The writer wrote under a strong sense of compulsion, “Somehow or other, I cannot get away from the impression that I should include these shoelaces in my letter; and yet what a ridiculous thing for me to do!”

Joe Evans learned in that encounter with the Almighty that He sees, hears, and knows.  The Sovereign One saw His struggling servant in Boston and then touched one person in California, long before the days of instant communication, to nudge them to meet Joe’s need.

God uses the prayers of one individual to touch the life of another individual.

Burden in the Woods


Later in life, Joe took a day of prayer in the woods to commune with his Lord.  A great, and somewhat strange, burden came upon his heart to pray for the spiritual conversion of His Majesty, King Edward VII.  Dr. Edman wrote, “The burden of prayer increased throughout the day rather than diminishing or disappearing. . . .  With great agony of soul, he prayed earnestly for the salvation of the king until there came the release of full assurance that prayer had been answered.”

The following day word came across the ocean, “King Edward is dead.”  Joe Evans had not known of the king’s illness, nor had he ever met the king.

Years passed, and one day Joe ate dinner with Dr. J. Gregory Mantle of England, who told Joe the story of King Edward’s conversion.  Mantle asked, “Joe, did you know that Edward VII was saved on his deathbed?”

The king took ill and called a lord-in-waiting, ordering him to go to Paternoster Row and find a gospel tract titled The Sinner’s Friend given to him years earlier by his mother, Queen Victoria.  The servant, after much searching, found the booklet, “brought it to His Majesty, and upon reading it, King Edward VII made earnest repentance and received the Lord Jesus as his Savior.”

As God’s faithful servant Joe turned aside to meet with His Lord in the woods, the King of England lay on his deathbed.  The Great Intercessor moved upon Joe in the woods to intercede earnestly for the work of God in the life of the king, several thousand miles away.
God uses the prayers of one individual to touch the life of another individual.

One Family


As I struggled last week to know how to pray for the victims of the hurricane, it struck me, God can use my prayers to make a difference in the life of one person or one family. 

As my perspective changed, so did my praying.  I imagined one father, one couple, one family struggling with that storm.  I began asking, Father, meet the needs of one husband and father.  Help him to help his family.  Give them wisdom and help.  Get them to safety.  Provide for their needs.  Care for and comfort his wife and children.

As I prayed with that spirit the next several days, I pondered, “What if 1,000,000 praying believers asked God to use their prayers to touch one person or one family?  Might God use the prayers of each intercessor to reach across hundreds of miles and intervene specifically in 1,000,000 situations?”

Let’s do it, for God uses the prayers of one individual to touch the life of another individual.



Images used courtesy of Pexels - and from friends posting pictures on social media of the aftermath of Hurricane Helene